Stress (less) Seasons
T’is the season to be Jolly ..Tra la la la la la la la la
Have you noticed that this is the one time of the year when everyone seems to be in a good mood.
Everyone seems Happy.
Everyone is Smiling.
Everyone has a twinkle in their eye.
There’s just Joy everywhere. Children and Parents are laughing. People are shopping, singing. There are beautiful Christmas markets .. There’s music playing everywhere. Yes, You get the picture I am sure. Happiness, Joy, Love, Laughter …
Isn’t is a Lovely picture even in your mind? Just thinking about all of this brings so much Joy. To our hearts, to our faces, to our energy.
But my question is Why? Why do we have to wait till December for this?
Why do we get into a great mood only at his time of the year? Or when it’s time to celebrate something?
What about the rest of the year? I think the other months will feel very sad ( ha ha )
So what do we need to do to stay in this happy state throughout the year? Or at least 300 days, come on. :)
It’s a state of being. It’s a state of mind. So if we can change our state of mind for this one month, what will it take for us to change our minds through the year?
First, let’s start with what we need to release for us to be in this beautiful state.
No.1 is definitely stress. I call
STRESS -
Something
That
Erases
Super
Scenarios
That is my definition of stress. I do not want anything that is disturbing my peace. Not allowing me to get into my Happy space. I could be in such happy scenarios and this stress comes along and ruins it. Hmph!! No more.
Easier said than done? What isn’t?
Think of something You are really good at. Anything. Could be a game on your phone, a skill, with your health, at the gym, writing, a sport, loving, teaching ..anything. How much practice did that take? I am sure You did not excel in that in the first attempt. To excel at anything You need practice. You need to do it regularly. You need to excel at it, right?
To accomplish anything - even being good in a relationship, you need to work on it.
When You go to the gym and you start doing your reps it takes practice and repetitions to build your muscles right?
I absolutely love this saying by Zig Ziglar “ Repitition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment “
It is absolutely the same thing with stress.
To release this stress we have nurtured over the years, we now need to work on getting it out of our systems. I think we are all ready to out in some work for this right? I am. Are You?
So lets work on simple ways we can release stress from our lives so we can be in a Happy state most of the year..most of our life. And the rest of the time, we will not let it effect us the way it has been over the years.
The simple ways that one normally reads about are
Deep Breathing
Mindfulness
Meditations
Regular exercise
Healthy diet
Good sleep routine
Seeking support
Yes ..These are awesome and they do work. I have tried to incorporate all these in my life.
But there are many people I know who say they cannot do deep breathing or meditations. People are happy with their diet and do not want to change it too.
I have learnt a few things which I will share with You which I implement in my life now. I even did this today.
One of the techniques is GRATITUDE. How? Ok, Please right now, before you read on can you stop for a minute and just think of 4 things You are Grateful for…….. Did You think about it? ….. Do not read beyond if you haven’t. When You are thinking of these 4 things, how are You feeling?
Just keep that feeling with You. Stay in that state. So I call this a SHIFT. A shift of state. A shift of being. When You shift, You move to a grateful state and there is no space now for any stress, hurt, anger. Be Honest with yourself and give this a try and see the changes start to take place.
The other one is your STATE. Ok, So I want You now to think of something that made You really Happy. Think it, Feel it. When was it? What was happening? How were You feeling? Who were the people around? Where were You? Stay there ……………………. Now if I ask You to please name that state, what would You name it? One of the times I did it I remembered my son’s Mehendi function. So I called mine “The Mehendi State” What have you named yours? Name it Please. So now every time you go into a low state, a state of stress or anger .. Please think of this state. Think of the feelings .. and shift yourself into the STATE.
Have You noticed there are times you are talking and you can actually laugh over something that stressed you like crazy at one time? So it is a laughing situation as it’s in the past. Make your situation feel like it’s in the past too ..
Take an existing stressful situation. I was so upset with my husband this morning because … Now seriously find either some Gratitude there, Shift into your Happy state or laugh over it.
Give it a try. It can be done.
This is Lightness of Life. We just make it really serious.
What I am trying to share with You’ll is that we focus on so many things that do not need our attention. Instead,
Focus on things that matter
Focus on things that bring You joy
Focus on memories that life You
Focus on moments where You felt empowered
As Tony Robbins says “ Where Focus goes, Energy flows “
So where is Your focus?
What You focus on, you begin to believe. So what do You want to believe?
I want to believe that I can be Happy everyday and share my Happiness too.
I believe there will be ups and downs in life and this is all teaching me something for my highest good.
I believe laughing is good for my soul
I believe I never need to “grow up” what does grow up mean?
I believe music soothes my soul
I believe in living and learning and giving and sharing and Being.
And I hope that You can incorporate these little steps into Your life to make some BIG Impactful changes.
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